You can only control YOU

You are not responsible for anyone else’s happiness or how they feel. You are ultimately only responsible for YOU.

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying
to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” -Ralph Waldo

Learning to be aware of your thoughts and then to control how you think, is a powerful skill to have.

It is a step towards creating JOY in your life.

We all have the power to change the thoughts that we think, and to ultimately control how we feel. This is the beginning step to allow you the greatest transition forward in your life. That transition is to take your thoughts back.

You cannot fix, change or help anyone else.

For this exercise you will fill in the blanks as you read through this next paragraph.
Write whatever you feel as you read through each statement. Your statement, if you were explaining why you can’t live in JOY one hundred percent of the time:

When I am around someone who acts a certain way, which makes me feel a certain way, I can’t be happy because they need to change how they are acting so I can feel good.

If You Can Only Control You, you can’t change how someone else acts or feels. This is such an important concept and idea I must repeat it one more time, so you can hear it and really feel it.

If you can only control you, you can’t change how someone else acts or feels.

It is not your job, nor your responsibility to do or say anything to change where someone else is in the moment. To realize that is “their stuff” or “problem” and not yours is key.

Now go one step further, and realize by trying to change or help or fix something for someone else you actually dis-empower them.

You cannot really fix or do anything for someone else, you can only realize that is where they are right now.

Give them their power back by letting them be where they need to be in the moment. You can always remove yourself gently from the situation that is not a good feeling place for you, instead of engaging with another.

If you can stay in your space of what is you and not allow another to project their feelings or ideas onto you, that is the only way to really help anyone.
The more you are in your body and can feel happiness the more it will begin to transfer to all those around you.

It is amazing when we no longer have to jump in to fix or say something to make someone feel better,
how we no longer take another’s power away from them.

This is the concept of letting everyone be right where they need to be in this moment without having to change them so we feel better with how they feel or act.

Remember that ultimately you are only responsible for how you feel! You can not let the actions of others change that…..and you can not worry about you bothering or changing someone else.

Apply this Lesson every chance you can. This new mindset can be life changing if you start to purposefully think through this in every day situations.

Lesson Tasks

Focus on keeping this intention and mindset when you are around others.

Start to notice from the outside perspective the interaction and how people are acting and responding.

Make the effort to not allow others to change how you are feeling.


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